Support of family and friends helps those through divorce
I'm sure most of us have had a friend or family member divorce. The problem is sometimes we don't know what we can do to help them through the process. For those going through a divorce, the support of friends and family is sometimes what gets them through this trying time and experts have put together a list of things you can do to help a person going through a divorce.
When a person is going through a divorce, they may need a sounding board. They just want someone to listen to them vent or give them advice. A divorce, like other big changes in a person's life, can be hard to transition through.
Secondly, giving a shoulder to cry on could prove to be helpful. While some may not want to express their feelings in this way, just knowing they could, may make the person feel better. If the person does cry, let them cry and try not to comment or place blame. Sometimes the emotion of the situation takes over and a good cry will bring more perspective to the person.
A whole new life begins after a divorce, but sometimes offering to help out is a great gift. Juggling new schedules with the kids and not having a spouse anymore can bring a lot of stress to a newly divorced person. Knowing that they have friends or family to pitch in is a great boost to the person and they realize that they can do this on their own.
Holidays can be trying for a divorced person. They need to develop new traditions and a lot of times guilt may take over. If friends and family step in and offer invitations to join them, it may make the transition a little easier. Also, the divorced parent may not have the children on a holiday and may be alone. This is when it's critical for friends and family to extend an invitation to join them.
Finally, encourage the person to get out and do something for themselves -- could be working out, taking a short vacation, entertainment, etc., all of these things will help the person maintain a good balance and can help clear away fatigue and confusion.
Divorce is tough, but as long as a person has a good support system, they can get through it.
Source: The Huffington Post, "What Do Divorcing Women Want And Need?" Paula H. Noe and Betsy Ross, May 9, 2012